What husbands and wives think of others’ unions and what they’d recommend for their children.
India’s arranged marriage culture became the source of international attention thanks to Netflix’s controversial hit Indian Matchmaking. But while the rest of the world may have been fascinated by the “foreign” phenomena, the majority of Indian married couples are the result of unions facilitated by their families.
While Indian culture can be heavily stratified by religion, caste, and ethnicity, arranged marriages—at least those that take place within these divisions—are favored by nearly every group. An overwhelming 93 percent of couples said that their marriage was an arranged marriage, according to a 2018 survey of 160,000 households.
Arranged marriages broadly encompass situations where the parents only introduce the bride and groom to each other and either person can decline the match to situations, more common in rural contexts, where neither party can opt out.
Christianity Today spoke to eight Indian Christian married couples: four in love marriages and four in arranged marriages. Husbands and wives weighed in on the following questions:
· What do you envy most about the other kind of marriage?
· What role has your faith played in sustaining your marriage?
· What type of marriage do you want for your children?
Monica and Amit Chand, married 19 years
Lucknow, Uttar Pradesh
Monica: I envy the element of surprise and excitement that is missing in a love marriage.
The more I invite God into my life and marriage, the more he takes control of my life. There have been difficult times and trials in our marriage, and I see that God was there all along. The more I seek him, I see him more clearly.
I advocate that my children go for love marriage and have a developed …